Parenting Tips for Communicating with Your Kids

Posted on August 3, 2012 · Posted in Parenting

You cannot be a good parent without learning how to communicate with your kids. This is quite a feat, especially since you have to be there for the long haul. This means you have to know how to communicate, not to people your own age, but to a toddler, a child, a pre-teen, a teen, a young adult, and, eventually, an adult. Learning how to communicate dynamically is very important for a parent who wishes to get through to their kids and to form a close, lasting bond with them even as they grow older.

Here are some tips that can help you become a better communicator for your kids:

Be there for them

Communication does not always need words. The most important message you can send to your child is best shown by action; or rather, by your presence. The most effective way to communicate with your kids is to be there for them, to show them that you are just behind them at all times. Being available already says a lot.

But how can you be there for them? There are many ways. First of all, you have to be around when they need someone to talk to. You have to make yourself available no matter what time it is. Second, find time every week to bond with your kids; make sure that you devote that time to them. By being there, you are communicating the most important message your children have to know: that you love them.

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Start the conversation.

Don’t be hesitant to start conversations with your kids. This will give you a chance to ask about your child’s interest and to learn about what’s happening in their lives. Most importantly, this will help you get to know your kids more.

Listen more.

When your children talks to you, learn to listen, no matter how mundane what they are saying are, and no matter what you are doing. Try not to intrude when they are talking, and always show your interest in what they are telling to. If you have a different point of view, listen to theirs first. Let them get their ideas, feelings, and thoughts out before you intercept them. Listening is sometimes more important than talking when it comes to communicating with your kids.

Respond gently and calmly.

When talking to your kids, respond gently and calmly, and refrain from raising your voice as much as possible. Most issues can easily be resolved without the need to use a louder voice, so make sure to try talking and discussing calmly first before you start getting sterner.

Respect your kids’ opinions.

As your kids grow older, they will start having their own opinions too, and these could differ from yours. Never let them feel that their opinions are of lesser value than yours, and when you share your own opinion, do not make theirs seem insignificant.

Learn to talk without criticizing or lecturing.

Parents are so used to assuming an authoritative role that they sometimes cannot get through one conversation with their kids without making a lecture. This can put a strain on a parent-child relationship, and may even cause a child to want to avoid conversing with their parents for fear of getting caught up in yet another lecture. Have a conversation, and make sure not to turn them into a lecture or a criticism of some aspect of their personality or something that they did.

In your efforts to maintain good communication with your kids, you will surely meet a few roadblocks, but this does not mean you should stop trying. Parenting takes work, but if you are willing to invest time and effort into it, all these will surely pay off. So just work hard to maintain a good connection with your kids. To make it easy for you and your kids, start the communication process early. Even as toddlers, make it a habit to talk to your children and try to make them understand the things going on around him. This is good practice for both of you. As your child grows, communication between you two will therefore feel more natural and comfortable.

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